Maybe a guy could help me out here.
I’m talking with Babe and we’re talking about his status update on whatsapp, and I ask “hmmm, why those words?” and he’s like they are from his thoughts. So I say “a naira for your thoughts?” and he says “it’s nothing“!
He said it’s nothing, but translate that to woman language and what you get is “I don’t want to talk about it“, which is really not fair because I talk about mine all the time, the slightest shift in the sky and I’m texting him asap. I don’t expect him to open up as much as I do, I understand that macho thing guys feel the need to be, but at least! Talk to me. When I ask how your day was, I want to hear details not just some plain “it was cool“, but guys, guys like doing this, they like covering everything up in a layer of translucent film, so you know there’s something underneath but you can’t see it. And it’s annoying, it’s getting to my neck.
Eventually, I decided I should just let it be. Babe will talk to me whenever he feels the need to, I don’t have to go through all the stress of jumping up and down like I’m in Lagos traffic. He’ll talk when he wants to talk, besides, it just might be that when he shrugs his shoulders and says it’s nothing, it really may be nothing. And this decision has been positively effective so far. I have rest of mind, and he really does talk on his own, all I do is let him know I’ll be there whenever he needs someone, I’m just a phone call away.
Still it bothers me on a general basis, why guys don’t talk about their feelings and what can we women do to make them open up more.